Sonia Delahaigue is a psychologist specializing in education and childhood issues. It supports children in their development and helps all those who are part of the child’s environment to get to know him better in his stages of development.
In the management of the health crisis, a phrase repeated many times in the public debate particularly challenged him: “the French feel infantilized”. For the psychologist, who fights infantilization, submission and obedience and who has advocated for years a new form of education, this sentence is revealing of the way we educate children in our society.
Why do the French feel infantilized when the government uses tools of domination, intimidation and blackmail? Does this mean that the most commonly accepted education in our society is based on this type of educational tool? If some people accept that the government uses such methods, it is perhaps because they have undergone this form of education …
For the psychologist, obedience has always been more dangerous than civil disobedience. Milgram’s experiment illustrates his point: on the pretext that they were participating in an experiment, 62% of individuals were able to subject their colleges to more and more electric shocks, despite their cries of pain (up to 80% in experiments similar). Any individual can therefore commit the worst atrocities when the authority which orders him to do so is, in his eyes, legitimate.
What is dangerous, according to Sonia Delahaigue, is that education is largely based on obedience, both at school and at home. However, asking a child to obey an adult is dangerous, since once he becomes an adult, he will repeat this pattern of obedience, without questioning, even unconsciously. To avoid this, she explains why it is better to adopt so-called protection rules, to establish a healthy education, rather than rules of domination, characterized by blackmail as well as by their arbitrary and changeable aspect. Conversely, a rule of protection is benevolent, consistent and fair.
Sonia Delahaigue works in Asnières-sur-Seine, in her psychology, workshops and training practice which she named “The Chrysalide Center”, in reference to the intermediate stage of development between the caterpillar and the butterfly. She receives children and their families there to support them in their education and help children to become fulfilled adults.